You learn from your mistakes and how can you learn anything if you are always perfect (7A)

People look at accepting failure differently. When you are raised is when people will learn if failure is a good or bad thing. Growing up I have learned to accept failure to and extent. I have learned that in sports failure is going to happen. My coaches and parents have always taught me to have fun while playing sports and to never get to upset if I have lost a game. They have told me that if you don’t loose some games playing sports wont be as fun. Also if you don’t fail you wont have any motivation to work harder or practice. One of my soccer coaches use to tell me that there is always another day to come and play so as long as we went out played our hardest there is nothing that we could do about it.

My other soccer coach as I got older would tell me that if you lost a single soccer game that we were going to be failures the rest of our lives. He had coached my soccer team when I was 13 years old. He would scream to us that if we cant win a single soccer game that we would fail in anything we do. If we messed up anything he would scream at us and make us run laps for even just the simplest mistake. He believed in perfection and would not settle for anything less. He would make us run until we threw up and if we threw up or got hurt he would say that we failed. He would call a couple girls on our team fat and say that their parents were failures for allowing them to get like that. He would make girls cry every day and I would come home and pull clumps of hair out of my hair in result to the stress that he would cause me. At age 13 I was lucky enough to have parents that would sit me down comfort me and explain to me that failure is ok and happens to everyone.

I am now a very competitive person and I do not enjoy failing but, I do believe that failure is what makes everyone better. You learn from your mistakes and how can you learn anything if you are always perfect? Whenever I mess up something in softball practice I know that that is what I will need to practice more then the things that I succeed in. Since I am a competitive person when I do fail it motivates me to go work harder so that I don’t fail at the same thing again.

I think from having many different perspectives of failure from multiple coaches and both my brother and my parents I have a good balance between accepting and not accepting failure. For example if I fail a test or a game I need to go study and work a little bit harder that week but, if I mess up on drill in a sport or get a question wrong on my homework it is not the end of the world and I shouldn’t get to upset about it unlike what my soccer coach has told me. If it wasn't for these people I wouldn't be the successful person that I am now.